Thanksgiving 1909

italicized passages written by George Brooks Armstead

Thanksgiving

In November 1909 left Marion and James at at Avon Street and went to Lynn, Mass. to be editor-in-chief of the Lynn News (evening paper). Marion brought James to Lynn to live in February 1910 and we had a flat near Lynn Beach, overlooking the ocean. The paper had been bought by James Bolton, whom George had worked with his year off college.
 
The new father had to cope with starting out in a new city - and taking on new responsibilities at a paper - leaving his family behind for a while. Here is a letter he wrote home shortly after arriving:
 
"At home office - Thursday night, 8:30-
My dear little wife and good mother:-
Being pressed for time and sleep I sat down to write you both, having neglected it last evening because I worked till late and was so tired. Just as I started the introductory the bright idea came to me to make it all in one letter, knowing you would not mind. Although I have been here most a week I have not taken the reins in full yet, but will Monday or the first of next week. I am only suggesting and directing in part, at present, and getting acquainted. Already the sheet looks more lively and clean, I think. I received your letters and you can imagine how glad I was to hear. Thanks for your words of love and encouragement. They help a lot and are the incentive for all things.
I have a room on that boulevard which I told you of in a house that faces the street on the opposite side of which is the ocean beach. It is about the same distance to the water from the house at Cox's or the Sea View hotels are, at the Rock. I am lulled to sleep by the steady tread of the breakers as they rolling from the mighty deep. They have not been big yet it has been such mild weather with us. Today was warm enough to have doors and windows
open. In the morning I arise, dress, and walk to the office which takes me for at least three quarters of a mile along the ocean front on the splendid concrete walk. The air is bracing and by the time I have reached the center of the city, where the office is located, I feel able to eat more than I can afford to, either for the sake of my pocket book or my health.
This morning was clear and the sun was just rising, as I started toward the office. It was prefectly magnificent. As the rim of the great fiery disk appeared above the surface of the waters, as it seemed, the intervening sea was a pathway of gold. Then, as it cleared the ocean and started on its journey through the heavens, the whole expanse was lighted, and gleamed and sparkled in refulgent splendor. Far out beyond that Island which you saw in the postal pictures, I don't remember the name, the great ocean liners, or rather one of them, was speeding down the coast, probably making for Boston. Then there was a sail or two so far distant that the hull was below the horizon and only the canvas of the ship was visible. 'Hull down' the sailors say of a ship seen that way.
I stood fully five minutes leaning on the sea wall, gazing out over the deep and wondering if I will ever be fixed so that I can again taste the joy of those school day experiences when 'My joy of youthful sports was on thy breast to be borne, like thy bubbles, onward: from a boy I wantoned with thy breakers - they to me were a delight; and if the freshening sea made them a terror- 'twas a pleasing fear, for I was as it were a child of thee and trusted to thy billows far and near, and laid my hand upon thy name as I do here.' I thought that never had the ocean, and you know I have seen the ocean but comparatively few times, seemed so like: 'The image of eternity- the throne of the invisible'.
I always hesitate to talk of my love for the sea for fear you dear ones will wonder if it does not make me love my home ties the less. Again let Byron speak for me, as he puts it so much more beautifully than I can ever hope to do:

I love not man the less, but nature more,
From these our interviews, in which I steal
From all I may be or have been before,
To mingle with the universe, and feel
What I can ne'er express, yet cannot all conceal.

My room costs me two and a half a week and while small is comfortable and clean and its location alone is worth double the price.
I trust that you are all well and that Aunt Eunice and Grandma Armstead, Grandma Grannis, Aunt Ella, Aunt Julia and all the other relatives are in usual health and happiness. It is mighty queer to be up here alone and lonesome too, I tell you. I hope that everything is going to be fine and think that the experience is going to be something great for me. Lynn expenses are high so that my salary won't be any too big. Rents are scarce and costly but clothing is not more expensive as it can be purchased in Boston at metropolitan prices. I don't know about the prices of food.
I like to get my kisses from Jimmie by mail much better than first hand, when he is spouting discarded milk like Old Faithful. My kisses from wifey and mother I prefer in the usual manner and as you, Marion, sent me a hundred by mail, I find that delivered in that way, a hundred at once is not a bit too many.
Bolton writes me that there are changes being made in the editorial department of the Leader [George's previous paper, in New Haven]. I wonder if he means Pickett is being forced out, or if it is the help he refers to. Perhaps Webster is going or the new city editor has not made good. I hope it is the latter although that is mean, no doubt.
I am going to have a dandy little private office finished off in the reportorial department if plans mature as now laid. It will be splendid. I like the town very much and think you will, Marion, and Mother too, when you come. I start to run the editorial page Monday as I have it planned, and my editorials are already written for the first day, with the change in headings for the page etc. I am in hopes that the new type ordered and a title line for the paper will have arrived, so that all the changes can be made at once.
It is going to be almighty hard work for some time and you dear ones at home will have to do the bulk of the letter writing and let me give all my energies to work, save keeping you posted on the progress of things of import that happen to me.
I have just $1.50 left and unless Bolton sends me some money before Saturday noon, as I have asked him to do I can't come home without borrowing from Goodridge, the president of the old corporation who is the only man I know well enough to ask. Bolton will send it all right, but it might not reach me in time. My room rent is paid so that I shall not have to sleep in the park and I guess I can make the money stretch out for the feed. I am getting fat so a fast would really be a blessing, even if uncomfortable.
Give my love to Aunt Eunice and to all. There are so many that I won't attempt to name all to whom I send it. Hope that everything is all O. K. with you and will see you Saturday night if it is possible.
 
Aunt Eunice Armstead - sister of George's father, who never married - wrote him while he was was getting established in Lynn:
 
"82 Cottage St, New Haven CT, Nov. 19, 1909
My dear nephew George,
Your editions of the news for Nov. 15 and Nov. 16 have just passed must with me. I read every one of the editorials and I am proud of you. Your success is ensured. I only wish your beloved father could read and feel proud and happy too. I wish we could show the papers to your uncle Harry, too. He was anxious you should cultivate a literary style, and I know he would be glad of your success.

 

George's Thanskgiving letter

Although the following letter was undated, it mentions the letter from Aunt Eunice, so was likely just after he'd left Marion behind. Due to its length - three single-spaced, typewritten pages - I am only including excerpts here:
 
"Dearest Love: This is the night before Thanksgiving, and it finds me in the office at eight thirty as I have been nearly all day. Mr. Bolton has gone to Boston to meet his children who have been invited to dine tomorrow at their uncle's home. Tomorrow will be rather lonesome for me and in fact I feel homesick already but I am going to work here even if we do not publish.
 
As I sat here tonight I thought over the letter Aunt Eunice wrote me... What I would not give if father could only know that you and I are happily married and that I am established in business. He sacrificed so much for me and then passed on into eternity without knowing that I was to benefit by his self abnegation. I love to read Byron when I am sad... [Here is one of his poems:]
 
     Light be the turf on thy tomb!
     May it's verdure like emeralds be!
     There shall not be shadow of gloom
     In aught that reminds us of thee.
     Young flowers and an evergreen tree
     May spring from the spot of thy rest;
     But not cyprus, nor yew let us see:
     For why should we mourn for the blest!
 
... I must say that the shadow of gloom does not seem to go with the years. If he could only have known our happiness, love, and probable sucess in life. Mother and I were all that he lived for. He had little and never complained about it so long as we were benefitting by his labor and loving sacrifices.
 
As I turned my gaze to the next page I came across three stanzas which made my heart glad. They are the poet's description of such a woman as you are, my love.
 
     She walks in beauty, like the night
     Of cloudless climes and starry skies;
     and all that's best of dark and bright
     Meet in her aspect and her eyes
     Thus mellowed to that tender light
     Which heaven to gaudy day denies.
 
     One shade the more, one ray the less,
     Had half impair'd the nameless grace
     Which waves in every raven tress,
     Or softly lightens o'er he face;
     Where thoughts serenely sweet express
     How pure, how dear, their dwelling place.
 
     And on that check, and o'er that brow,
     So soft, so calm, yet eloquent
     The smiles that win, the tints that glow
     But tell of days in goodness spent
     A mind at peace with all below,
     A heart whose love is innocent!
 
Marion, dear, I love you more than words can ever tell. I think perhaps our separation will make us feel just how near we are to one another, better than anything else could have done. I know it has brought me to a realizing sense of how much I depended upon you for love, little words of kindness, cheer, affection, and the thousand and one attentions that only a wife can give to a man. You are the idol of my heart and may God preserve and keep you. Give me the caresses, the kisses, and the love, yes, once in a while the tears, of my little sweetheart and I can be happy even though the world forsake me. I say the tears because your tears bring the love in my heart up to the top... Whenever I see the tears in your eyes I want to take you in my arms and hug you, although for diplomatic reasons I believe I have once or twice refrained for a while, haven't I?
 
I hope that you and all are enjoying the Thanksgiving when you get this letter. I wish that I might be with you, but fate has decreed otherwise and perhaps what now seems a hardship, will turn out to be a cloud with a silver lining. I try to think so. Please give my love to one and all gathered around the table Thanksgiving Day. I wish each and every one many, many more such days and would remind them that the Gorham family has much for which to be thankful for your dinner party will be a happy one. I feel so sorry for poor mother, there in New Haven all alone, save for the boarders... I have telegraphed her love and best wishes for Thanksgiving...
 
Dearest, you ask if I love you just as much knowing what you call your 'faults'. They're not faults, darling, just trivial little differences in our makeup caused by the fact that we live in different worlds when apart. I am tied up to business and you are doing nothing but loving your hubby and your baby and working for them. You see it makes me thoughtless of many home things that you might think I ought to have right on my mind... It isn't because I don't want to remember but because your world is the home and those you love. My world is my business during the day and it gives me little time to relax or send my thoughts back to other things. Then, when I get home it is hard to remember all I ought to for your sake. You have no idea how much I have to remember in this business of newspaper making... So forgive me my shortcomings, love, and what you call your 'faults' will be more than outweighed by my failures. I am the one to be forgiven. You to forgive.
 
You have been a darling wife, I never dreamed a woman could be so much to a man, and don't worry about trying to do more for me. You are the light of my world. Jimmy is just looming up on my horizon. I haven't decided whether to call him a 'light' or only a flicker, so far. He may be another light some day, but he can never shine into my heart as does the dear little girl who brought him into the world.
 
I must stop and go to bed. It is now long after ten and here I am when Bolton told me to go to bed early as I looked all tired out. I must write to mother before I go to bed however...
 
Give Jim one kiss from me - on a dry place, please - fresh washed, preferred. Much obliged for his kisses...
 

 
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References

Source material for the above

  • an early biography sketch (unpublished), by Geroge Brooks Armstead
  • Letters handed down to James Gorham Armstead

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